Oh my evil darlings they suck. They suck and blow. They are dying the death of a thousand paper cuts. Not one person in the world will tell you that they like to be rejected. What they do like is surviving, and being stronger, and having less down time from each one.
My first rejection floored me. It was the END OF THE WORLD. I died inside, I ate chocolate, I had the really good ice cream, and a pity party for several days. I was a wreck, floating in despair, a poor excuse for a human being. Now I look back at that and thank the stars that no one but my family was around. It was pitiful. Seriously. I pitched a pity fit.
If there had been a camera I would have been a very emo animated gif that would have swept the internet.
Now, notsomuch. I don’t love them. If anyone tells you that they do then you know they are a great big LIAR PANTS, or they could be psychotic, or maybe a serial killer. Normal people don’t like rejection. But it really isn’t a big deal.
I was very lucky. My family loved me anyway. Yours, however, may want to kill you so let’s break this down and figure it out. Not dying is always the better choice, and if you get murdered after this it will be your own fault.
Do you like every single food on the planet? Does every flavor make your taste buds dance?
Of course not.
Neither does anyone else with taste buds in their mouth.
Your manuscript is a certain flavor. If you send a sweet manuscript to someone who hates sweet things, you’ll get a rejection. Duh.
I would bet $100 green dollars that you have not loved every book you ever read. In fact, I bet there are a few that within a few chapters you thought ewww, and put it down and never picked it back up. Do you personally hate that author and want to make them feel bad and leave writing forever and die?
Of course not. Their book just wasn’t to your taste. No biggie, right? You didn’t hate them and want them to die. You might even like their next book or the one after that. The only difference between you not liking a book, and a rejection letter is that you got an email that said, “No. Thank You.”
Make it a rule not to complain until after you have 300 rejections. Count them. Seriously. After you do, and you can complain, you won’t want to whine.
It just won’t be that important.
Buzzy Mag Columnist & Pundit. Julie Butcher lives with her husband and six children on the fringes of Utter Chaos. She adores puppies, kittens, and thinks world peace would be awesome as long as stuff still blows up in the movies.